It breaks my heart to see people worrying and running themselves into the ground in order to make their life better. I used to be there but my understanding of the way the world works makes it unnecessary for me to do it any more.
This is down to my understanding of the Law of Attraction as explained in the teachings of Abraham, or in the movie (or book) ‘The Secret’, or as constitutes the central theme of Suzie Cheel’s blog ‘The Abundance Highway’. The idea is that we create our own reality in every detail by drawing it to ourselves through our vibrations. And our vibrations are determined by our emotions which are, in turn, affected by our thoughts.This has always been the case, according to Abraham, but we have never opened our eyes and noticed it before.
So you affect change in your life by changing your habitual thoughts to ones that feel better. We already do this automatically most of the time. For example, if someone says something that mortally offends me I will try a few thoughts, with some sense of urgency, until I find a feeling of relief. It might be, ‘Well she’s a bitch anyway and I hate her more than she hates me,’ or perhaps, ‘Everybody knows she’s jealous of me and only wants to bring me down a peg,’ or, ‘Huh. I can just loosen up and that comment doesn’t actually make me feel bad anymore.’ It doesn’t have to be a ‘good’ thought full of sweetness and light to be a better thought. It just has to feel better than the previous one. You can’t go straight from utter depression to lightness and joy. Try it sometime. You’ll find a pretty sour smile plastered across your face, if not a snarl. But you can work your way up through increments and get as high as you want, as high as you can be bothered to.
So if you always have a problem with money – there is never quite enough, or it is always a struggle to pay the bills – you probably have a pretty negative attitude to the whole subject and have a habitual low vibration about money. Me, I tend to have ‘just enough’ which is better than a few years ago when I usually had ‘almost enough’. Quite a significant difference in the scheme of things. So I’m patting myself on the back. I must have improved my thinking. Wooohooo!
That’s a very brief lesson in Law of Attraction, so go and find out more if it interests you, but my point is that if I don’t like the life I have, the way I would find my way out of it is not through working three jobs that I hate and pandering to people I don’t really like. It is mostly about, you know, being cool, chilling. And following the feel-like-it principle. But that’s another story which I will explain another day.
Hardest thing for me has always been to stop beating myself up for finding stuff hard. Which quite simply achieves nothing. I still do it sometimes – it’s a well-entrenched habit – but there’s no anxiety about letting it go because I know the world will still turn if I don’t do it.
Then it’s a matter of Stopping Doing Stuff. Stop stressing myself out with schemes to fix it. Just thinking about them drains my energy. I often find that my life isn’t nearly as hard or taxing when I stop adding in projects intended to make the future easier. Make now easier. Don’t do them.
And then I might get a chance to notice, in my new-found leisure time, that the current situation has some redeeming features. I usually find everyday activities that I love, that I can do, you know, every day. I’m starting to breathe. Always a good sign.
And finally I might daydream about a better situation than the one I have now, daydream on the sunlounge in the afternoon that I used to spend on one of those three jobs. If the daydream is a happy one – and that’s the whole idea – then my vibration is a match to that very future, or something along the same lines. It’s the daydreaming on the sunlounge, rather than the three draining jobs, that has the greater power to bring that kind of future into my life.
That’s how I see it which is a pretty good view of things because, even if I’m wrong, I’m having a relaxed life getting nowhere. It’s a pretty fabulous wrong track to be on.
So I am thinking I am fabulous. Wow! I am! Awesome…
Seriously, a thought provoking post. I haven’t looked into the Secret and that sort of thing but it sounds like Creative Visualization. Something that I used to do when I was younger. Should start again.
It’s amazing how our priorities change as we get older isn’t it? I’ve had my days of chasing the 100k job and running myself ragged to prove I could do it. 18 hour days are NOT good for the soul.
These days I still like to earn a decent living, but refuse to take crap from anyone, not even the boss. I’m not rude about it but make it known I won’t be intimidated or walked on. I’ve not come across one yet who has taken exception to how I go about dooing that.
These days I’m more laid back and relaxed, however still hard on myself when I make a mistake, particularly if it’s a silly little mistake. Other than that. I’ve mellowed a lot. Mind you, I needed to!
Great post and I agree on positive thinking and relaxation.
Stress only attracts more stress, whereas a relaxed, happy person can easily repel that kind of soul-sucking lifestyle
Kelley, I’m thinking you are fabulous too. Apart from being a biatch of course, but an awesome biatch.
A-mum, apparently the kids of generation Y (e.g. my kids), when they go for a job interview, tend to interview the interviewer. You and me too, hey. How young are we?
Jayne, I can’t believe the stress I used to put myself under to keep it all together. These days I’m so laid back I’m almost comatose and I’m probably better off financially than I was then. And I can only assume the effects of the easy life are patently obvious in your Feral’s change of lifestyle too.
A wonderful post which I can relate to so much. Changing your way of thinking is not easy to achieve without effort and persistence but the the results are so incredibly worthwhile.
I think the first hurdle is believing it can be achieved. If you are used to thinking negatively you will be inclined not to believe it and to give up too easily.
I was not familiar with the Law of Attraction when I made the transformation, I just doggedly plugged away at countering every little negative thought that caused my unhappiness with something more positive or something that was not putting myself down. I was my own worst critic.
The way of thinking was so embedded in me that I often did not realize I was doing it so another step in the process was learning to recognize the negative thoughts, however fleeting, and stop them in their tracks. They come along very rarely now but I never let them take hold.
Good to see you Sue, and I love your blog name. Isn’t it amazing when you start to notice how you talk to yourself? We would never wish those thoughts onto someone we love and yet we blithely heap abuse on ourselves as though we are some worthless thing. Where does that come from? Anyway, I’m like you, most of it has gone. We *know* we are fabulous. Oh, and so does Kelley – well, in her (day)dreams.
I keep telling you. Age is no more than a state of mind and a number, not a condition.
If others saw it this way, perhaps the thought of being over 30, 40 or 50 wouldn’t give them so many nightmares.
I’m 50, nearly 51 and damned proud of it. I tell anyone who asks.
Most days, I feel no more than a day over 25! I constantly say. I may be getting older but I refuse to grow up.
The day I had to face my own
immortality was the day I matured, but grow up? Never!I refuse!
A-mum, did you really mean ‘immortality’? If not, too bad, I’m leaving it there. And if so, where do I go to face mine? I wants me some of that.
I’ve been waiting for someone to spot that!
Sorry, it was deliberate, just for the reaction…it’s the child in me!
I’ll fix it now Mum
*hanging head in shame*
You know what? I need to steal your positive attitude because it rocks. I’m a really pessimistic person and I’ve been trying hard to be more positive lately and while I’m sort of getting there, it is rather difficult and sometimes I feel fake. But reading your post I see how a truly positive person comes across and wow, it does make such a difference to a life!
You’ve definitely got your priorities straight!
Wow, thanks Katie. It’s my opinion you can be a thorough-going pessimist and still come up with something that feels a bit better, such as, ‘My glass might be half empty, but his is full of piss!’ if you’ll pardon the french.
A-mum, I couldn’t fit my reply into a comment-sized comment. Refer Home Page: To laugh or not to laugh.
Seems our bookshelves are pretty similarly stocked!!
Have you seen “What the Bleep”? Worth a look at…
Yes I have seen it. Fascinating film.